Joy Davidson, the stakes are generally higher for her.“Remember that getting ready for a first ‘meet-up’ takes as much time and effort for a woman as a real first date,” Davidson explains.Meaning what you say and doing what you promise will show that you are a quality guy.Playing it ‘cool’ by being unavailable, or simply lacking follow-through, will make any smart woman think twice about trusting you with her time, let alone her heart.” And if it turns out it’s just a case of you’re just not that into her? If you’re out for a meal or drinks, pick up the tab, but do not tell her you’ll be calling if you won’t.“If someone starts talking about the future at the first meeting, or even if she jumps into bed with [you] the same night (unless it was a sex match-up site), be on the lookout for a clingy, dependent type,” Davidson warns. Some information will be designed to ensure her own safety; other information is just inappropriate—like discussing or asking about intimate details of past relationships early on.Usually, if something feels ‘weird’ or ‘off,’ it probably is, so trust your instincts.” Finally, Davidson notes, guys should avoid getting so wrapped up in their own fantasies about someone that they miss the cues that would otherwise tell them she’s not right for them.There’s always the chance that the person you got to know online isn’t what she seems.
Then follow up in less than a day with suggestions for your next date.More than likely, but your karma will be clean, and you can move on to the next Miss Right with a clear conscience.When it came to dating in New York as a 30-something executive in private equity, Dan Rochkind had no problem snagging the city’s most beautiful women.Why don’t we both think about how we feel about another date.I’ll email (or text, or IM) you later.’ Then be sure you do it,” she says.
“Thank her for the date, and wish her well in her search for Mr.