We analyzed over 500,000 first contacts on our dating site, Ok Cupid.Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates, and what trends were statistically significant.On the other hand, more general compliments seem to work well: is almost always used to describe the way something or someone looks, and you can see how that works out. After all, the way you choose to start your initial message to someone is the “first impression of your first impression.” The results surprised us: perform better, bucking the general “be literate” rule.In fact, it’s smarter to use no traditional salutation at all (which earns you the reply rate of 27%) and just dive into whatever you have to say than to start with all did very well.As we all know, people normally like compliments, but when they’re used as pick-up lines, before you’ve even met in person, they inevitably feel…ew.Besides, when you tell a woman she’s beautiful, chances are you’re not.I just stumbled across your profile and I have to say, you really do seem like an amazing woman. Let’s assume for arguments sake that a man wrote this email to a woman.It definitely seems like we have a lot in common, especially with our love for dogs. And don’t worry ladies, the lessons you will find in this email example are universal to both genders.
But ideally you should just disbelieve the whole thing.It could be that appearing unsure makes the writer seem more vulnerable and less threatening. But either way: men should be careful not to let the appearance of vulnerability become the appearance of sweaty desperation: , 23%)!Mentioning your religion helps you, but, paradoxically, it helps you most if you have no religion.It’s not enough that are you seem to have stolen all my great hobbies and qualities for your profile, but you have to go ahead and steal my legally patented, “take a picture with the guy dog idea” on top of that just to get messages? I guess I could let it slide, that’s pretty awesome. Here at Next Evolution Matchmaking, my staff and I have been writing emails for clients since 2009 with unbelievable success rates.I invented that move and had to steal that dog from a little girl at the park for that photo op. In fact, not only have we formed many amazing relationships and drastically improved dating lives, but no client has ever requested a refund on our service.
) that are all clearly referencing something important to the sender, the recipient, or, ideally, both.