I’ve asked or am asking myself things like: I’m serious. When I’m Black, my family is Black, and my political center is Black, why did I end up dating a white person?
Could it be related to internalized anti-Blackness, loneliness, genuinely clicking with someone, growing up in a white neighborhood, currently living in a predominantly white area, or seeing few models of Black love in the media or around me that I could aspire to?
A couple considering marriage needs to weigh many factors.
While a difference in skin color should not be ignored, it absolutely should not be the determining factor in whether a couple should marry.
In fact, the biblical perspective is that there is only one “race”—the human race, with everyone having descended from Adam and Eve.
When selecting a mate, a Christian should first find out if the potential spouse is born again by faith in Jesus Christ (John 3:3–5).
“There is no difference between Jew and Gentile—the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him” (Romans ).
It’s as if there is no allowance for people to work out the politics of intimate relationships without being pressed to center whiteness yet again by handing a woke pass and a complimentary 1 invite to the cookout to everyone who gets uncomfortable. ” is the wrong question to ask because it is by its very nature seeking outside approval.
I’m willing to bet that the person asking the question isn’t interested in hearing a hard “no,” which is going to be the answer from a lot of Black people who are (justifiably) tired of being asked to care about white people.
I see you, I see you—but if I dated a white person would I still be woke?
It sounds ridiculous when I put this question next to what people actually tend to talk about when they express their personal frustrations around white-partnered Black people, but this is exactly where the question tends to pop up.
A colorblind church and/or a Christian interracial marriage can be a powerful illustration of our equality in Christ.