Most people in recovery suggest that newly sober addicts give themselves at least a year to focus only on themselves and their recovery.
Recovery is a journey of personal growth, and some addicts who date other addicts find that they can connect on a deeply spiritual level.
Too often, recovering alcoholics and addicts find themselves in codependent relationships that lack healthy communication, goal setting, and problem solving.
If you have only a few weeks or months of sobriety, the chances of any relationship working out are pretty slim. You experience a rollercoaster of emotions and you are just getting to know yourself and how to live life sober.
Don’t let past negative habits get in the way of helping you find the happiness you deserve.
Wait the “one year” rule and then get out there and start having fun!
Basically, the types of relationships to avoid are ones where both you and your partner are newly sober, both are in unstable situations, or one person is a heavy partier while you are trying to stay sober. Sure you don’t need to go into every embarrassing detail right away about things you did while drinking, but just give a general, honest overview of your past.
The chances are that the other person will be more than happy to support you and your sobriety as long as you are consistently sober and working an honest program. Make sure that both of you are in the relationship for the right reasons, and not because of loneliness or a replacement for drugs and alcohol.
If you’ve been sober for some time and are looking to get back out in the dating world, there are a few words of advice that can help along the way.