Super awesome, super compassionate, super relief to just address it, and move on.
Now — I understand that this isn’t easy for everybody. I was amazed how much a simple adjustment kept my body and mood feeling good.
Or the day that THREE SEPARATE PEOPLE asked if I was having twins. The most recent sting I got was a nurse telling my husband my weight, including the lovely prefix of “Oh! Cuz it’s the 1950s and he controls my body and health information, right? I’m honest to a fault sometimes, and I learned a few years ago that playing coy and acting shy and embarrassed about my weight was doing nothing but a disservice to myself.
Case in point – my OB warned me that the perinatal doctor would likely be critical of my weight.I kept putting it off, saying that I wouldn’t get pregnant until I had lost some weight.Well, given that I’m now the heaviest weight I’ve ever been, I sure am glad I didn’t wait until I lost weight – because I wouldn’t have my joyful little girl and second one on the way.He suggested I go for it — and try to become the mom I always knew I wanted to be. There’s also a great list of plus-size care providers here on the Plus Mommy site.And so, I did, and now, I’m a mom 🙂While navigating my first pregnancy as a plus-size woman was nerve-wracking, I found it was way less scary than I had imagined, thanks to a strong penchant for research, an upfront and honest attitude with my doctors, and a determination to honor my body for the amazing work it was doing. While it’s unrealistic that you’ll find an OB who never once mentions your weight (and in fact, it’s their job), you do want to find someone who approaches it in a factual and TACTFUL way.